If You’re Thinking About Leaving a Church
Before You Decide to Leave
1. Pray.
2. Let your current pastor know about your thinking before you move to
another church or make your decision to relocate to another city. Ask
for his counsel.
3. Weigh your motives. Is your desire to leave because of sinful, personal
conflict or disappointment? If it’s because of doctrinal reasons, are
these doctrinal issues significant?
4. Do everything within your power to reconcile any broken relationships.
5. Be sure to consider all the “evidences of grace” you’ve seen in the
church’s life—places where God’s work is evident. If you cannot see any
evidences of God’s grace, you might want to examine your own heart
once more (Matt. 7:3–5).
6. Be humble. Recognize you don’t have all the facts and assess people and
circumstances charitably (give them the benefit of the doubt).
If You Go
1. Don’t divide the body.
2. Take the utmost care not to sow discontent even among your closest
friends. Remember, you don’t want anything to hinder their growth in
grace in this church. Deny any desire to gossip (sometimes referred to
as “venting” or “saying how you feel”).
3. Pray for and bless the congregation and its leadership. Look for ways
of doing this practically.
4. If there has been hurt, then forgive—even as you have been forgiven.
From Mark Dever, What Is a Healthy Church? Wheaton, IL: Crossway, 2007. page 57.
(HT: New Attitude)
I never planned to write this blog series. I feel like
“Evangelical feminists” and egalitarians use
One of the biggest issues our churches face today is the question of gender roles, and specifically the role of women in the home and in the church. As I begin my seminary studies today in the year 2007, the Bible’s teaching on the primary roles and responsibilities of man and woman is being undermined, questioned, if not simply made unclear. If this was 1907 or 1807, this would not be an issue that would bring about such discussion or controversy. Even since God’s inerrant Word has been canonized it is only these last 50 or so years that the feminist movement has risen to undermine biblical manhood and womanhood. We live in a unique era where we face some of the most dangerous attacks on Scripture that have rarely been faced before.













