I read this article @ CT and I cannot for the sake of me bring to mind any women I know who would date to have fun, date to learn, or date just to experience things. Everybody seems to date for the purpose of marrying. I cannot believe I am reforming my theology in the purpose of dating too… I truly, cannot believe it LOL! Am I really the only one considering to jump on the other boat?!
“You just said that we ought to date a lot of people to learn and grow and all that stuff, but I really disagree,” said a woman seated in the first row at one of my seminars. “I don’t have time for that.”
“What do you mean, ‘You don’t have time for that?’” I could tell the questioner was young and energetic. What could she mean that she didn’t have time for dating? Usually you hear that from someone worried about his or her age in some way, such as a man worrying about putting down roots or a woman worrying about her biological clock. Maybe that is what she meant, I thought.
“I don’t have time to waste on dating someone whom I couldn’t see myself marrying. If he doesn’t have the potential for a serious relationship that could lead to marriage, I don’t want to go out with him.”
“What’s your hurry?”
“Well, I’m forty-two, I’ve been married once before, and I want to be married again. I don’t have time to waste.”
“I don’t get it. You are only forty-two. It’s not like your life is over. What’s your hurry?”
“Well, I just don’t have time for all this dating. I only want to go out with someone I could marry. Isn’t that the purpose of dating? To find a mate?”
“NO! NO! NO!” I said, literally jumping up and down on the stage. If I could have screamed louder without breaking the microphone, I would have. “That is not the sole purpose of dating! Haven’t you heard anything I’ve said?”
“Well, I just couldn’t believe you were really serious about dating just for dating. I date to find a mate.”
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