I just ordered John Ensor’s book, Doing Things Right in Matters of the Heart, from Crossway. As the publisher’s summary says, “There is a radical, biblical alternative to much of what is taught and practiced today regarding relationships. Doing Things Right in Matters of the Heart presents a bold plan for escaping the swift currents of contemporary patterns of hooking up, shacking up, and breaking up. It draws a compelling vision of complementarity between the sexes. It instructs men on what to do and informs women on what to look for in their mutual pursuit of a healthy, tender, long-term relationship.”
A quick look at the table of contents gives us a look at what biblical manhood and womanhood looks like:
He Initiates . . . She Responds
Hhe Leads . . . She Guides
He Works . . . She Waits
He Protects . . . She Welcomes Protection
He Abstains to Protect . . . She, to Test
His Unmet Desire Drives Him toward Marriage . . . Hers Is Rewarded with Marriage
He Displays Integrity . . . She, Inner Beauty
He Loves by Sacrificing . . . She, by Submitting
He Seeks His Happiness in Hers . . . She Seeks Hers in His
He Is the Primary Provider for the Family . . . She, the Primary Nurturer
Here’s an excerpt from Chapte 3 “What The Heart Lacks“, in the section titled
The Idolatry of Idyllic Love
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